Monday, February 2, 2015

Checking In From The Home(School) Front







It's February! (Yay!/Oh, still February...whomp, whomp...) And as we all know, or at least people with small children and any mother at all who homeschools, February is the time where everything feels as if it's never going to end...like winter, or whether your child will ever figure out the concept of counting by tens, or conjugating those pesky Latin verbs of the 4th declension, or the alphabet. It's the time of discontent.

February is the winter of homeschooling discontent.




We all sorta feel like packing it in, throwing the kids in play school, or any other institution -we're not picky at this point - and burning a bunch of workbooks. It's a real angst. And I'm not here to gloss over that real angst because I will be the first to admit that homeschooling at any point and during any month isn't easy. But then again, nothing about raising human people is easy no matter what type of education you're choosing so I'm under no illusions, or delusions.

I think I meant to write about homeschooling in the midst of a lot of little kids before I got distracted with the discontent. So this will probably just apply to you if you've got little kids since I know of nothing else. But I thought I'd just do a little mid-season look at what's been going on around here with the school business since I get asked about it a couple times...or once...a year.




Firstly, it's still fairly hectic and crazy. It's like trying to do a focused activity while you have 5 people under 8 in the house. So it's loud, and distracting, and chaotic. School around here doesn't look like a classroom it looks like normal life with a bunch of little kids.

And that's the whole point.

I'm still a firm believer that kid's learn naturally through the development of their imaginations, and that can take place just about anywhere. I'm also a big believer in the importance of attachment, connection, and the beauty of home especially when children are so young. These ideals I need to remind myself of repeatedly, and often during the course of each and every day because yes, things can get a bit hairy. I think this is something that's really intimidating to us who have just small children when it comes to homeschooling, because it is chaotic and involves a bit of juggling and discipline and it is a big sacrifice to have your kids in your personal space all. day. long. I totally get all these things because I think them all the time. I get it. But what helps is letting go of the idea that when you're homeschooling with only littles in the house that the day and your school time needs to look exactly like a classroom when really it looks much more like cuddling on the couch and reading a story. Phew. That made me feel better just writing it.






We are still very much in the season where most of the "subjects" of our curriculum are covered in read-aloud time and mostly through really good picture books. Sure, I'm trying to incorporate the Charlotte Mason book list for the first couple years, but this looks a lot different than the list most days. Some days we read fairy tales, other days picture books about saints or historical figures, other days science picture books about whatever the kids seem to be interested in, and a weekly dose of good bible and catechism reading. It all sort of evens out, and I don't do anything that resembles a lesson plan or a concise list when it comes to all this. We just read at a regular time most school days. This usually happens around 9-9:30 in the morning while all the babies are still awake. The babies sometimes still throw an almighty fit to sit on my lap or scream at what we're reading, but I just try to take it in stride/fume about it silently until the tantrum-er gets bored and goes after some toy.

When Nora has her morning nap (she may or may not sleep and I definitely do not care either way but it helps to have her corralled for a set period of time) we work on the main curriculum that requires my one-on-one time with the kids and for us that's reading and writing. We're still using the IEW The Primary Arts of Language program for writing and reading, but we're almost finished and I think we're going to move on to level 2 or 3 of All About Reading. I think for the early grades its most important to focus on the reading/writing basics as well as math every day and let the other things be covered in read-aloud time. We can usually work through a good writing/spelling/reading time in about 30-45 minutes.

This year after lunch we tackle math and we're still using the A Beka workbooks which aren't perfect, but require just the right amount of mom time and kid attention. It's a tricky bit to figure out how much attention/time you need to give to something or if the curriculum is a bit overboard for you or your child. There are so many resources out there if one of those things are off for you, honestly just try something else and find something that works for you, because it's out there I promise! That's another 20-45 minutes for us. In the grand scheme of things that isn't a lot of time, but in a household of 5 kids+1 mom it feels pretty epic working it into each and everyday while also juggling everything else. Like feeding, clothing, washing them and maybe, occasionally cleaning something in the house.





I'm sure the million dollar question in your minds is what to do with the babies while working with the big kids? I'm here to tell you there is no answer to that question. I don't care how many bleeping busy bins, activities, Pinterest ideas, etc. etc. etc. you come up with there will always, always be a base level of baby/toddler craziness that you're just going to have to grit your teeth and get through. Unless you're a supermom, in which case you're probably not reading my blog anyway. In Canada the past 3 months have been way too cold to throw the toddler outdoors by himself without going through exponentially more work and effort to get him dressed than just suffering/occupying him indoors.

I don't have many secrets but just wanted to share what's really going down on the homeschool front. There are also the great things like slow mornings where I don't have to wake my kids up at obscene hours, where we linger over breakfast, where they get to play with their own toys and siblings to their heart's content, where I don't have to get out of my pyjamas until noon if I'm not leaving the house, where my baby's naps don't get disturbed to be hauled out of the house to pick up someone else, there's the hours of time spent one on one with each child cuddled on the couch, there's hearing their questions as their minds open up and begin to ask great questions about the world around them, there's witnessing them read their first book on their own. So many great things.

I was homeschooled myself, and I remember the years where I would mostly do all my schoolwork on my own in the hours I wanted to do it in while pursuing my interests to the full and readings tons of books. The little years of homeschooling are pretty much the same as the little years of child-rearing; a whole lot of work and noise, and at times, frustration, but they'll pay off. Hope, dear hearts!


I might do a post just devoted to books we use one day...soon!






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Friday, January 30, 2015

Seven Quick Takes vol. 113



Checking in with good ol' Kelly.



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Well, there goes another week. And I don't even know what happened to it. Does this happen to you all? Because honestly nothing exciting happened, I was mostly feeling cabin fever-ed in my house full of screaming children, and yet, time goes by. I feel like I'm trapped in some kind of time-space conundrum or something because it doesn't feel like time is flying when the tantrums are being thrown and the legos cover the floor and all. And did dinner make itself for anyone this week?? 



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I'm feeling all emotional and crazy-town this week. Gosh, when did I turn all girly?? There's been a few things going on that seem to be a bit out of my control since I'm not God and all, so there's always an extreme amount of time that it takes me to come to emotional grips with that fact. I feel like there should be some tried and true emotional how-to lists when coming around to what is most clearly God's will, but why does it always seem much harder when you're the one going through it as compared with just telling someone else?? If only I could take my own advice....said everyone ever.



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Here's a tip for when you're feeling emotional/living in the month of January in Canada: maybe don't read Flannery O'Connor. Now don't get me wrong, I adore Flannery. We're on a first name basis. I've read everything she's written and I still can't get enough. But man oh man, I'm reading The Violent Bear It Away for the third time this week and I'm crying every time I pick it up. It's such an amazingly graphic, poignant world she creates that you can't help feel all the feels on almost every page. I love it. But I'm crying so much! 



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Holy teething toddlers, Batman! I swear, every time two-year-molar time rolls around I question who my children really are. Have I known you for these past two years?? Do you realize I gave birth to you?? You've been eating that same yogurt every day of your non-just-milk-consuming life, yet today is the day you need to scream to get it as far away from you as possible? I mean, I know they're in pain. But now that they're toddlers and can "express" themselves with words...it's a whole new kinda pain, let me tell you. 



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"But Christy," you say, "you just interviewed the guru of babies and motherly wisdom this week on your podcast, how can you be so lost and impatient?" I do not know. But I think I'm going to play that podcast we recorded with the amazing Auntie Leila everyday until her wisdom has seeped into every crevice of my impatient, cranky, yell-y, mothering heart. 

It really was a great podcast. I've listened to it again since recording it, and still can't believe how good it was. I should start listening to it again right now...



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So, Cabin Fever, Teething Toddlers, Emotions. Check, check, check. What else can I dig up for you? My big kids have been really good this week. I really should focus on the positives because there are many to be found if I just stop griping. The boys were all into their art this week, which is amazing considering I'm on of their parents. Gemma has been into Heidi again while also helping her baby sister get dressed in the morning, and making lunch for me sometimes. And Dom informed me today that him, Luke and his dad are going to go "dark camping" when he is 16 and Luke is 15. Dark camping is sleeping in the dark...outside. It honestly sounds a whole lot cooler than just camping, so I didn't correct him.



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Superbowl Sunday! I have a horrible fear I have no tequila and I can't even tell you how much a bottle of tequila (that's not even very good!) costs in my horribly small town. And I hate not having tequila for Superbowl. It's like Christmas without eggnog. Or...New Year's Eve without champagne. It's just not right. Also; I never cheer more passionately than when the Patriots play because I hate them with the fire of a million burning suns. Mostly Tom Brady, but enough for the whole team, really. So come Sunday, the Seahawks are getting all my love and support and occasional sports-related cursing. 

Well, those takes escalated quickly. You can thank my two glasses of wine I drank while writing. Happy Weekend, friends!





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Friday, January 23, 2015

Seven Quick Takes vol. 112




Popping in real fast to join the FUNNIEST BLOGGER around, Kelly!



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Last call for the Sheenazing Awards! Go vote right now because Bonnie will be closing the polls later this afternoon. I can't tell you how great it feels to be nominated, these awards really do support Catholic bloggers in a tangible way, Bonnie does such a wonderful thing! I've found some new blogs I can't believe I haven't read because frankly, I read A LOT of blogs. And that's pretty awesome!



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This week has been one where I've really noticed how reluctant I am to give of myself. Read another story? Fix this toy right now? Sit with a crying baby again? All these little mothering things have felt really hard this week. I mean, they often feel hard, but this week it happened again and again where I felt myself wanting to pull away and not do it and just throw up my hands. I'm not sure what this is all about, if I'm just going through a January patch of discouragement, or if it is some kind of resistance that's a little different, or it it may just be a reminder of how very un-giving of myself I can be. But that's an observation I found this week.



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It was much warmer than it looks!


YOU GUYS!! This week's weather was so awesome I can't even tell you. Like, plus Celsius digits...that is such a big deal for January up here. Snow was physically melting!! I could actually walk outdoors and think I didn't have to zip up my down-lined to my knees parka! It's a small but lovely miracle and climate change be praised!



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I need good movie suggestions! Have you seen something relatively recent you've loved? We are really suffering a dearth of inspiration in the movie department and I don't even know what I'm in the mood for...there's got to be something good I haven't seen!




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Haley and I talked about some awesome books this week on the podcast and it seems like a lot of you liked it and we're not just nerds talking to ourselves! So podcast win! 

I'm so happy to hear so many of you have read Dorothy L. Sayers because she's one of my favourite writers of all time. Makes my heart happy!



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Blessed Is She has created a beautiful Lenten prayer journal package that looks fantastic! If you're already looking ahead to Lent an how best to enter into the season please consider this awesome journal. And if you want it I suggest getting one quick because the Advent journals sold out! 


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I'm off to the city to enjoy a couple days in civilization and soak up this glorious non-freezing weather. We're going out to fancy dinners and staying at a hotel so those are some of my absolute favourite things in life and I intend to revel in them. I hope you all have a great weekend!





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Thursday, January 22, 2015

Popes, Planes, and Common Sense






I hesitate somewhat to join the excessive noise over Pope Francis's recent gab-fest on a plane because there is just so much noise about it. But sometimes a girl's just gotta blog.

I wish I could be surprised at people's reactions to the Pope's somewhat off-the-cuff comments. I wish less people were jumping to conclusions, overreacting without reading the proper translation, and taking things so personally. The translation is fairly clear and easy to read.

The Pope was going on a bit of a random tangent as he is prone to do while at cruising altitude, and brought up a women he knew who was having a lot a children via caesarean section contrary to medical advise. A few minutes later he refers to this woman when he is asked about family planning and poverty saying that it is not Catholic teaching for Catholics to act like rabbits. Which is true because we're human beings not animals who are slaves to their instincts. This is something the Church has never wavered on but has only become clearer and clearer about: people must use their sexuality in a way suitable to their nature, they cannot separate the reality of procreation from sexual activity nor are they meant to be procreating cogs in some kind of creation machine. Family planning must reflect the dignity of the human person. We are soul and body, capable of making intelligent decisions when we should further our families and at the same time are capable of restraint from engaging in sex. These concepts go hand in hand; if we're against contraception because it denies life, treats the human person below it's dignity, and lacks respect for our partner then we also should make the connection that we're rational beings who are responsible for our families, for bringing new life into the world, for the lives that we have already brought into the world, and for ourselves and our spouse.

The problem with this teaching as with almost every other Catholic teaching is the extremes. It is so hard to get the teaching of the Church regarding family planning right because orthodoxy (to paraphrase Chesterton) is a precariously thin line between extremes. The extreme of using contraception to "plan" a family is an easy extreme that gives us human beings complete control, or more factually the illusion of complete control, over fertility. While the opposite extreme comes into play when people treat family planning as something that doesn't require human decision and input. God's plan for sex and our fertility is for us to be co-creators with him, to choose to open our hearts and bodies to the possibility of life at each and every act of sex while at the same time using our reason and understanding about when it may or may not be appropriate to be engaging in the activity that may make a baby. This teaching is a two sided coin that helps us understand our roles as co-creators with God while being responsible parents.

But again, it is right in the middle of extremes where orthodoxy resides. The Church's teaching doesn't seek to dehumanize us as cogs in God's people making machine with no choice or use of reason when it comes to parenthood, having as many babies as often as possible. But it is equally dehumanizing to rely on artificial means to stop conception as if we had no control over our sexual instincts.

It's really a good dose of common sense that sees the extremes yet realizes that virtue is found in the mean. The important fabric of Catholic teaching regarding family size is no exception to common sense.

As Catholics we've got to employ a little more common sense to everything else. Like the internet, like the media, like presuming the Pope said something and immediately taking offence or being hurt or getting upset. Because just as it is common sense to know that the media today will give their front teeth to catch the Pope saying something shocking, there is also common sense in believing that the Pope is a wise man who knows his stuff. It's a large leap to think that the Pope would want to offend large families and sacrificial mothers after all the wonderful things he's said about large families. He clearly has a great deal of appreciation for large families and is working hard to make helping all families a priority for the Church as a global whole.

And while I know that Pope Francis is a talkative guy who likes to let it all hang out so-to-speak when talking to reporters in airplanes, I also am sure that he does not intends to change Church teaching on a plane ride. Sure, I think that this most recent plane ride offered a lot of low hanging fruit for a media intent on finding imaginary change on fundamental strongholds of Catholic dogma. I also think that the way the media's portrayal of these comments to our society that is largely completely ignorant to basic Catholic beliefs will probably lead to more misinformation and misbelief across the board. Maybe it'll open up more opportunities for us to more clearly explain the nuances and fine line of what real Catholic orthodoxy regarding family planning is really all about, or maybe it will lead to a lot more strangers in the grocery store making snap judgements about me and my close age range of a handful of kids as being "more Catholic than the Pope."

But what if we use common sense to think about these supposed "gaffes"? The Pope is saying nothing untrue, he is simply saying things in ways our spin-saturated Western ears cringe at. They amount to chances to evangelize at best and annoyances at worst. Annoyances that are very small things to suffer and offer up especially when we realize we don't face forced abortions in our country if we have more than one child, we don't sleep in fear that our whole village will be massacred by barbarians because we are Christian, but that we have been given many gifts including freedom and formed consciences in the gift of the Catholic faith and to live our those truths. The Pope's job isn't to make life as easy as possible for us staying true to the faith in the Western world, or any part of the world, the Pope's job is to lead us all to Christ; the Way, the Truth, and the Life -- and we all know that we reach the truth faster when we use common sense.



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Monday, January 19, 2015

A Snowy Monday Morning







Ever wake up Monday morning and wonder where the weekend went?

I don't even know what I did this weekend! We didn't do anything exciting, but as we all know since becoming adults -- that's the best kind of weekend of all!

This morning the snow is falling and it makes me feel like I should really figure out how to photograph snow again, but what I've really been doing is dishes, schoolwork, and changing a lot of stinky diapers, a fact that is only remarkable because I now only have one kid in diapers but this girl has the diaper output of about 3 kids. It's her gift.




I've also been putting off the "frog" of putting away three loads of laundry. My philosophy with the "frog" thing is to wake up Monday morning, know that I really don't look forward to a chore, and ignore it until at least Friday morning. Don't worry, my book on the subject isn't coming any time soon!

In much happier news I'm really chuffed to be nominated in Bonnie's wonderful Catholic blogging awards, the Sheenazing Awards! Thank you so much for thinking of me, because it's honestly a thrill to be in the same categories of so many wonderful blogs that I read so often and that mean a lot to me. Also; the podcast has been nominated and Haley and I are both so happy, we'd love your vote - although not voting for Jen Fulwiler in anything is really difficult, I know! So do hop over and vote, because there are some really awesome blogs nominated that deserve your clicks and your votes! And thank the lovely Bonnie while you're there, she does a great job supporting small Catholic blogs like yours truly. And have a great Monday, may you put off all your frogs till at least Wednesday!








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Friday, January 16, 2015

Seven Quick Takes vol. 111


Recapping the week with Kelly, visit This Ain't the Lyceum for the bestest (and read how Kelly works out to a certain podcast!).


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Is it still January? Oh, it's January forever you say? This week was fairly unexciting, the weather was horrific, but the week was unexciting. And that's the wrap up for my week, you're welcome.



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Just kidding, I've got 6 more takes to go!
The boys have been hitting the lego pretty hard in these last few cabin feverish weeks, and I can't fault them. They've been creating various flying gliders and things that they keep telling me are extremely important, it's sweet. Gemma is completely into Heidi, and it that feels like a major step because she doesn't really fall into listening to chapter books easily. So far she's been a big fan of the Little House books and now Heidi. I'm going to make her a bookworm yet! 



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Let me tell you what the toddlers were up to this week: emptying drawers, emptying cupboards, spilling baking soda all of the bathroom floor, emptying containers of play-doh then hiding play-doh in bedrooms, emptying laundry baskets full of folded laundry, emptying bags of recyclables, trying to empty the garbage can (can I at least get mom points for not letting them do that?). When you've only got toddlers this all seems to be a big deal, but now I hardly even notice and take the mess for the price of ten uninterrupted minutes. It's a steep price, but I'm willing to pay it.



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There were so many great things to read that I loved this week. Did you read Jenny's post on babies and debt? I completely understand where she's coming from with this post and I think the issue is a big one and very multifaceted. For each person the price of kids and it's importance will be measured against choosing to implement NFP or not, and that's a personal decision. But one solid foundational piece of Catholic social teaching is that the economic system as well as government should never be forcing unneeded burdens upon families, because that makes these choices even harder to make and maybe even takes away the choice altogether. I love that the family is the cornerstone of Catholic social teaching and that it always come back around to how we can best support the basic structure of society. I'm digressing from what Jenny said I think, but I just like that fact.



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Hallie also wrote such a great post that I've honestly been dying to read for probably 8 years. It's something that I've dealt with probably 5 times over and will probably deal with my whole life. It's probably a very personal issue for me and all my issues, but I love how Hallie talks about it.

I love how Hallie talks about most things...as you can tell from my fangirl-ing in this week's podcast episode. I just thought it was such a wonderful conversation and I'm sure we'll want to have Hallie on as a guest again, or every month or so!



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In a little bit of news I got published in a real live, in print, magazine! I had a previous blog post picked up in Catholic Insight, a Canadian Catholic magazine, in their December issue. Kinda a sweet little dream of mine come true. You can't read it online but I'm sure you'd love to receive a real live, in print Catholic magazine in the mail right? You can subscribe over here.



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Is everyone catching up on Downton Abbey? I definitely found some of the story-lines tiresome in this season, I'm talking to you Mary, but overall I feel as if the season gets better as it goes on and is much better than say, season three. Also, the Christmas special is highly enjoyable if you make it all the way through. Just some tv watching encouragement - because that's the type of coaching I'm qualified for!

Hope you all have a great weekend, I'm praying the husband doesn't get called to work too much because it's his on-call weekend...we'll see how it goes....





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Wednesday, January 14, 2015

January: Digging Real Deep









You guys know me -- I'm fairly confident I could win Miss Cabin Fever 2014 from last year. I had a really rough winter last year with a nursing baby, 4 other small people who don't navigate the world on their own, and so many days of bitter cold and not getting out of the house. January is just the worst. And Canada just seems to pour on the bad weather during this month, it's so dark and dreary with no festivities to look forward to, etc. etc. etc. It's a big, unavoidable pile of dismal.

This January I'm trying to do a little better. I don't have a nursing baby so I'm getting out of the house a little more, although not as much as I should, and I'm trying to dig deep for positivity to distract myself from how long this bemoaned month is.

On the better side of things since I can't get out the house I've figured that I might as well hunker down and do some major decluttering and organizing. The New Year gives me a bit more motivation in this department and since last week I've got TWO whole areas cleaned and organized. Which seems like a pittance of course, to you single ladies with all the uninterrupted time, but to me when organizing only happens in the 2-3 minute segments I try and hide from my kids it's an accomplishment. And accomplishments make January stomach-able. (That should really be a word by the way.)

Homeschooling has been plugging along, and since there are fewer distractions I feel as if we're making good progress just repeating and getting in a bit of groove with things. I think that's the beauty of ordinary days because that's where the real habits form and where real learning happens - slowly over time. If we're looking for positive, then it's a positive that we're chugging along nicely, getting things done, reading good books, everyday even for a small amount of time each day. Woot!

I'm also giving myself a little leeway to take things easy on myself even though I'm trying to organize the house a little, and clean more which really take up what extra time I've got in the in-betweens of caring for babies. Maybe I should just read a little more, maybe an episode of Parenthood isn't the end of the world, or chatting with a friend is more important folding another basket of laundry. I just find that when I think those things aren't important I get much more irritable and angry and frustrated and that's what begins the downward cycle of winter-hating-stay-at-home-mom-depression.





This winter I've been cross country skiing with the husband on the weekends and it's been really nice. As much as I hate physical activity it is worlds better to get outdoors and do something, and have a reason to go outdoors in the cold, than to spend another day never seeing the sun. I'm also trying to do this little 7 minute workout everyday because it's 7 minutes. 7 minutes is the sweet spot of workouts am I right?? Seriously, I go for it for 7 minutes, then feel no qualms whatsoever settling in with a glass of wine in the evening. Sure, I'm not losing lots of pounds but I'm moving and every little bit helps in that department. When I'm feeling really ambitious or stressed I still love to do the SoulCore workout because I feel worlds better after doing it.





What also puts a little pep in my step are new glasses. I'm a glasses-a-holic I know, but I figure since I have to wear them they should be an accessory. Elton John is on to something here. I've recently gotten a pair from Firmoo that I'm really loving. I hope ombre isn't passé because I'm fully on board the two year old trend with this pair of glasses. Firmoo have a great selection of glasses, and a price point that makes it really easy to add a pair to your collection without breaking the bank. It's a little something you could do to perk yourself up in the dregs of winter!

Oh - also a quick happy in January - some Jamberrys. I'm getting a bit addicted to these nails. They're easy, they never chip, they've got many great patterns that make me smile.

And another thing! A daughter who's becoming quite the 7 year old blog photographer for her mum!



         

  

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